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Just broken up? This is how to make your ex love you again. Actually, before I start I have to say that your ex most likely is still in love with you, unless you split up years and years ago. Feelings of love run deep and it take a long time for them to completely disappear.

Okay, so the way to make your ex love you again is not to talk to them. Does that seem a little odd? Well, I will explain..

Here are the reasons you need a no-contact period of 30 days:

* Both of you will have space and time to think deeply about what has happened. You will be at a great advantage if you can instigate this in a mature and calm fashion that doesn’t result in tears and arguments. Be cool and it will work out.

Why? Because you made the choice and it is the last thing your ex will expect. Consequently, you will appear in a positive light to them.

* It gives you time to make yourself feel better. A period of retail therapy, going out on the town and having new experiences will strengthen your positive feelings and make it easier for you to control your overall strategy for the future. You will become a more confident and desirable person which is what you want when you eventually meet your ex again.

* You have time to consider the problems you had with your ex. Then you can work out exactly what went wrong and how to change it. This takes time and cannot be done overnight.

* You get time to work out an action plan. This is just the start of how to make your ex love you again. When you have stopped contact and worked through the initial emotional pain you will have to work on your future plan. It is not wise to rely on fate in these matters.

Online dating can be fun, but do not neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.

Computer Security

Make sure you have some kind of computer security before hitting the dating sites. You should have both a firewall and an anti-virus program for your email and when you browse the dating sites. A free firewall is made by Zone Alarm and a free anti-virus program is AVG.

Personal Safety

Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend. In addition, search “online dating services” and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place. Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.

Remember, safety first. Protect your computer and yourself with the right tools and knowledge and you will have a fun experience.

Now that I have covered safety, I want to talk about how you grow an online relationship. Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.

1. Make time. Does your online date try to contact you on a regular basis? You need to do the same. Ignoring emails and chats is abusive. You need to treat each other with respect. If you see that respect is not there, you need to end the relationship.

2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So do not rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3. Respect each others privacy. Do not share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.

4. Share things both online and offline. Offline – send greeting cards, postcards, and small items from your area (like a picture of your state flower). Online – send greeting cards, links to your favorite websites, photos of your pets, and your favorite music and videos.

Think of your online relationship like a flower. Water it with care and in time it just might bloom.