In most cases, two people can get back together if there were more good feelings than bad. But, if you are remembering more bad times than good, then look at that. It might be a good idea to move on and put that break up music away. Relationships that involved any kind of abuse or mental instability are ones that you should walk away from. It is best for you to move on to something greater. But, if the bad times were petty things and minor little disagreements and misunderstandings, then there is a really good chance that you can repair that and learn from it and make it even better when you do get back together with your ex.

The first thing you must understand is to not appear desperate. This means no calling, texting, emailing, instant messaging, making visits or doing anything that demands their attention. If you do these things, you are only verifying the good reason for the break up. The goal is to make them want you again.

You want them to contact you first. Do not be the first to make contact after the break up. If you have, then stop now and wait. Once you hear from them, it is important not to bring up the past and create a fight. Keep it friendly. Keep it upbeat. Do not ask for another chance. Don’t apologize for what you did wrong. It’s the past. Keep it there. Focus on the now. Remember your actions of what you do now are more profound than what you say. If you think you have changed then show it. Don’t say it. Otherwise you will be validating the break up in the first place.

Begging for a second chance and advertising how much you have changed looks very desperate and this will push them away.

The magic happens when you back off and live your life. This creates space. They cannot come towards you if you don’t create that space. Give them the space and they won’t be able to keep from thinking about you. With no reminders of the past, they are forced to remember the good. We naturally want to do that. Create the space for that. Live your life and do the things you’ve been wanting to do. This will instantly make you more attractive to your ex. You will start to notice that you are in a more fulfilling place – much like how you were when you had your own life and you first met your ex. Things were good then. Create it all over again!

To find exact steps on how to get your ex back, visit Annie Summers’s site on getting back together with your ex in 7 easy steps.